Thank you for your imput. The old version had very poor audio so here is a new and improved version of how to put a condom on with your mouth. I know it can be inflammatory to some but making sex safe fun is my goal.

Here is a link: Condom Demonstration

 

 

I have been guest blogging for the theedge.com.for 2 months. I will post the links to the blogs here daily.

Christmas and HIV

Here are the text questions from the audiences at Lebanon Valley College. The questions with asterisks are answered in my book SEXED: Tales Of a Textrix. The other questions will go in the second edition at the end of the year. If you need an answer urgently please e-mail me at river@riverhuston.com.

• Hey have you ever been in a porno?

• What happened to your friend that night?

• How come if a guy is accused of sexual harassment even if he never said anything to the girl himself he gets on trouble...

• Is the hiv test expensive?

• Are you a christian?

• Is 3 inches a big Dick hard?

• Are you rich?

• *I was raped when I was 14 and I'm 21 now. How do I help myself and my boyfriend cope without seeking professional help?

• Would u like to be in a porno?  I can arrange that?

• Whose your favorite painter

• I'm above average ;)

• *How nice is the carribean?

• Good job

• What is the Capitol of Vermont?

• Thank you for the help!!!

• What's the funniest pick up line you've ever heard?

• You're amazing!

• *How big is the average dick?

• Your hilarious !!

• How do you get over the guy you lost your virginity to?

• Who is your hero?

• Thanks for coming! :)

• *have you ever been with a woman?

• *Ru single?

• What ever happened to the men who raped you?

• Thanks for coming! :)

• Thanks for coming to our campus! You were hilarious and touched on very serious issues.

• Do you liek Mudkipz?

• *Does the G-spot exist?

• *How much sex is too much sex

• *how do you tell your significant other that you were raped before the relationship and have an std?

• whats ur favorite color?

• What happened to your friend after the rape?

• *When i was 15, my best friend of three years had turned 16.. I was at a party of his for his sweet sixteen and we went to watch a movie. He didn't get me to have sex, but he was very forceful. scared me to death. Is this common?

• *What do i do if someone i like still talks to their ex?

• Thank you for coming to our campus to share your stories!

• *Why is it hard for girls to have an organsm?

• What's the largest river in the world?

• what happened to the man u fell in love with?

• Do the guys in the front row look fly or what?

• What do girls thing about winky faces in texts? Do they hate em? Or love em?

• What's the pocket for in womens underwear?

• What if you are with someone you believe you love and want to be with them but like others?

•  my boyfriend raped me and we're till together, what should i do?

• *Have you ever had anal sex?

• *What are other reasons condoms break?

• *Where can we get those tshirts?

• How do you get through a guys mind that you like them and not just want to have sex!? Thats all they think

• *Is anal good ??

• What happens if you can't get it in?

• How do i get birth control without my parents knowing, and cheap?

• Whats the freakiest thing youve done?

• marvel comics or dc comics?

• *How can you tell if a girl is faking an orgasm?

• Thank you. You are awesome never had a speaker like you!

• *What is ur take on pubic hair?

• I've been with my boyfriend for about 16 months and we've spent everyday together up until I left for college. We're 2 hour apart, I know it doesn't seem like a lot but ibfeel like it is. And he also expects me to not go to parties and hang out with other guys. Any advise?

• *If a man and women are drunk and have sex, who is the victim?

I just started my fall tour and having survived Irene in the Caribbean she followed me up north. I was able to do the first two show at Steven Institute of Technology and The College of New Jersey.

Below are the unedited text questions from the audience. I have already answered  almost every question in my ebook: SEXED: Tales Of A Textrix.

For the question not answered I will answer them over the next few weeks on my Facebook page.

Questions:

My boyfriend takes really long to cum. He's really good in bed but I feel  like I can't satisfy him.

 What about anal sex?

 I orgasmed from a back massage. Is it common to orgasm from physical activity other than sex?

 what are some of your best tips for giving a guy an orgasm?

What is good to tell a guy to help me orgasm?

 How do you feel about friends with benefits?

 My boyfriend always wants me to talk dirty but idk what to say

 How do u stop him from being aroused?

 What's the g spot??!?

 What is the J spot??

 What are you doing tonight?

 When will my penis stop growing

 Is it normal a girl to start bleeding after the first time she has had sex

 Craziest sex experience you have had?

 I like your shoes.

 If u wack off too much will u go blind?

Do you swallow?

 How so you deal with premature ejaculation

 How do I shot cum?

 Is it true if u don't lose it, u lose it?

 Favorite position?

 How many girls jumped up when you asked them if they masturbated today?

 4-5 inches? Was that mostly asians?

 What's a virgin

 Is it normal for girls to squirt?

 Where did you get that black penis from?

 How do you make your cum taste good?

 can it explode if i pinch too hard

 Do you masturbate??

 How often do u look at your vagina?

 What food can you eat to make your cum taste good?

 Why are girls horny during their period

 anything you can eat to make your cum taste better?

 I feel really unattractive. Do I still have a chance? Or am I going to be the 40-year-old virgin?

 Other than during their period, when are women the horniest?

 When are women most likely to get pregnant

 Sometimes when I try to masturbate I don't have enough to do one and when I do cum my masturbate is fire.

 What is the best type of emergency contraception?

 Whats the biggest dick youve ever taken?

 Best position for a college twin bed?

 Pokemon YouTube ?

 Does listerin really make blow jobs better?

 How do u keep it quiet on the top bunk wen ur roommates asleep below u...

 Can you suck the sperm out with a vacuum to be safe?

 How well do condoms with spermicide work?

 Shave or wax?

 Is it true that if a girl is on the pill and a guy cums in her there is no chance the girl of getting pregnant

 Thank you very much for the presentation, it was really informative and your story is really inspiring.

 Hello. I know you told us not to text after the show, but I just wanted to say thank you, congratulations on being sober, and god bless about surviving HIV.

 Thank you so much for your talk today. It was hands down the best sex talk that ive ever had.

Thanks for coming and talking to us today.  I thought you were really funny but informative as well.  Sex talks like the one you gave today are the ones

 that really get the message across.  I like that you were very open and straight forward with us, especially during the question section.  Thanks again!

 Have you heard of any natural penis lengthening methods? Such as the slow stretching of the soft muscle tissue

 What happened with the guy after the positive test?

 Is a hurricane the best time to have sex?

 Top or bottom??

 What's the best way to prevent pregnancy

 This isn't a question, but you're an amazing and inspiration person.

 What is your favorite position?

 Is sex better with shoes on or off?

 how do girls masturbate

 I absolutely loved your show! Thank you so much

 Spit or swallow? Is it a health thing?

 Can you get pregnant from a dog?

 i want you to use the big dildo on me

 Is it true if you don't use it you lose it?

 Oral makes my girlfriend sick, why does this happen?

 Is it safe to have sex on a bunk bed?

 How do you talk about a fetish?

 what positions stimulate the clit?

 Have you ever encountered the clitisorous- rex?

 Whats a clitoris

 Are condoms dishwasher safe?

 Can you do the condom thing with your mouth again i missed it?

 What is the pink stretchy thing?

 Are gays really more at risk for aids and hiv

 You're amazing! Thank you!

 You're amazing

 I admire you so much. Did you end up staying with that guy who you got tested with? What happens if you put condom inside out?

 Have you ever seen 2 girls one cup

 Define: tossing the salad

 Is a stomach ache afterward normal for her?

How do u stop quiefing

I love you!!!!!

How risky is anal?

 How do u make sex last longer

 My bf doesnt care when i say no?

 If you squeeze your thumb it stops your gag reflex

 Where do you get your dildos

 Shave/no shave?

 What do I do if after I have sex my penis is covered in blood

 Wat if u hav inverted nipples?

 oral sex on a girl... where does the nose go?

 can i marry you?

 BDSM?

 What is 69?

 whats your opinion on abortion?

 Does mountain dew lower ur sperm acc?

 What if hes too nervous to hold an erection before sex?

 I am gay. and i want to come out here like at home but im nervous of acceptance here.

 Why does it burn when I pee?

 How do u make sex last longer

 What would you do for a klondike bar?

 my  balls itch

 What size cup are you

 What if I don't have a gag reflex.....

 Whats a "hot carl"?

 How do u make sex last longer

 What does anal feel like?

 Have you ever used bacon strip as a sexual instrument

 If both parties are drunk, is it still rape?

 What's the best way to stop a drunk guy from raping you?

 If i drink a lot milk will i come more?

 What's the Most dangerous position

 Are rim jobs safe?

 Does anal feel good?

 Cleveland steamer?

 What do I do if I take my fingers out and they smell really bad?

 Is there a such thing as too much sex?

 What happens when a queef smells like ass

 Should u be scared to have anal sex because of poop coming out and saying hello

 How do u make sex last longer

 I'm too insecure about the smell and look of my vagina to let him give me oral

 What are some interesting role playing ideas?

 Is it true if you don't use it you lose it

 Do you support manscaping?

 Do you recommend a strap on?

 What position stimulates the clitoris more?

 Do you believe in the g spot

 Great show!

 What's the best way to achieve an orgasm for a girl ?

 I just started having sex for the first time two months ago with my boyfriend but almost every time it hurts and I have to ask him to stop. Why? Help!

 Can you still get pregnant if the cum doesn't go inside you

 whats the weirdest object youve used to masturbate?

 I'm gay and my boyfriend has had sex in literally every position and any place you can think of. What can I do to keep him from getting bored?

 A girl once told me during sex that I was "damaging her walls". What exactly did she mean by that. From Darrel F.

 How many licks does it take to get to the tootsie roll center of a tootsie pop?

 If pullout works 50% of the time and the rhythm method works 50% of the time, if you use both will it work 100% of the time?

 Are there really women without a clit?

 Whats your position on threesomes

 What is your religion?

 How do i shot web?

 Are you married?

 How do you shave your pubic hair

 Why do girls use a death grip for handjobs?

 Best position?

 Do you squirt.......?

 Should I wear a condom when I butt fuck my girlfriend?

 Can you have children?

 Am i too small?

 How often do you masturbate?

 Can AIDs be transmitted through saliva?

 Is it wrong to not want to have sex?

 You think watching a lot of porn would spice up sex? When me and my girl are ready to do it, safely, of course :)

 I've never had an orgasm during sex.. What can I do to get one? - from a girl

 You are inspiring and beautiful.

 Is it weird that I love to queef?

 What the hell is a hymen?

 For girls who don't "know how" to masturbate, how should she learn?

 How do you bring up trying different positions with your partner?

 Does having a number really matter? Like how many sex partners?

 How did your husband react to you HIV confession??

 Does size matter

 Tips for having sex with someone who has an uncircumcised penis?

 I know you mentioned porn could be bad.  Is that because it isn't realistic?

 How did you become so confident?

 If you are a woman and use birth control but not a condom during sex, what is the chance that you'll get pregnant?

 Whens the last time you had sex?

 How old are you?

 What do you do when you never had an orgasm

 What is the average size

 Does pulling out work? Also, is anal an acceptable to prevent pro-creation?

 How did you get over all the negatives in ur life? gurrrl

 Biggest penis you've ever encountered?

 My bf wants me to fist him, but he doesn't want me to get anal lube because he's so embarrassed about it.  What should I use instead?

 How do you bring up kinky stuff like spanking? Ps tell them it's not the size of the wave but the motion of the ocean

 are fetishes bad?

 whats the weirdest object youve used to masturbate?

 can you have too much sex?

 Why are black  guys bigger.

 Does pulling out work? Also, is anal an acceptable to prevent pro-creation?

 Is back door no babies a practical method?

 Whats the best song to have sex to?

 3.5"-5"... Erect?

 What island do you live on?

 How long does a guy usually last in sex; is half an hour pushing it?

 Can you get pregnant in a hot tub or just under water?

 Does pulling out work? Also, is anal an acceptable to prevent pro-creation?

 How long did you wait to tell your husband you're hiv positive?

 Do you like Asian men

 Why do you last so long in bed when you're high?

 Tips for having sex with someone who has an uncircumcised penis?

 Does the HIV effect your weight?

 Is it bad to not want to have sex?

 Why are pornstar vagina's so perfect

 Whats your favorite flavor ?

 Is there any true aphrodisiac?

Ever had a same sex experience?

 Girl advice! Don't let him anal u w/o lube. It hurts and I cried.

 Does it matter how long you wait for sex to hurt?

 Best condom brand?

 How can i get my girlfriend to sit on my face? And wiggle.

 What do i do when i do oral on a girl and it tastes horrible?

 Thank you for your presentation. It was very inspiring and memorable. I'm glad you came to tcnj!

 Does it really hurt for a female that bad when she loses her virginity?

 What are your thoughts about threesome

 Have you ever been to the asbury park boardwalk there is a store that sells wooden penis bottle openers and decorative ones you should get them for your house

 How was your first orgasm??

 Does it matter if you take your birth control at different times everyday

 If a girl gets a period in the ocean will it attract sharks

 I freaking love you!!!!

 what about waiting for marriage?

 Masterbation on washing machines. why?

 Are there buzz words you can say to help a woman to orgasm

 Is semen ok in your eyes?

 How can i get rid of a gag reflex?

 If a guy has cum on his hands and fingers you can you get pregnant?

 u look 30 from up here

 Whats your position on threesomes

 Okay so my friends and I have this debate all the time. What is the best "clean up" tactic? I think the jizz should just fly everywhere and shower after. They think before they come they should dress their dicks up like ghosts using tissues and come into them. Can I get an official answer on this?

What if ur 18 and still a virgin?

 Is Saliva one of the fluids that transmits AIDs

 How much lube should I put on for anal sex?

 Tell them to just tell their partner. If the person is worth having sex with they'll respect your sexual desires no matter what!

 can you still have sex with your husband if you are hiv positive?

 do guys with small penises usually drive big trucks?

 Wat causes da vagina to fart.?

 I really like ur body shape

 Do women find a foot fetish to be disgusting?

 How do you feel about having kids with the possibility of them being HIV positive?

 Why do you last so long in bed when you're high?

 How do you talk to your boyfriend about different sex positions that you would without it coming off cheesy and unsexy?

 River, You came to Stevens institute of technology the other day and I just wanted to say how amazing of a speaker you are as well as a person. When you wanted the room to laugh, they were laughing, and when you were sharing your personal stories everyone was quite and listening intently. I love your story and how strong you are as a person. You are an amazing women and I love how happy you are with your life even with the all of the things you have been.

 

 

I have been posting daily sex facts and giving a sex quiz on my facebook page: http://www.facebook.com/pages/River-Huston/53449996633

And I have been neglecting my blog and upcoming eBook of all the sex questions I receive through email, post and text. If you have sent me questions they are on my desk and I have dedicated myself to answering 10 questions a day. For some of the questions I researched the answers in several places. I gave a specific source if most of the answer was cut and pasted. Here are today’s 10.

Why can’t women relax enough to have an orgasm during intercourse?

We are often more emotional and mental when it comes to sex. If this is a problem for you, meditation is a helpful tool to learn to be in the moment. It will help you to relax and learn to enjoy the sensations that are going on during sex and to let extraneous thoughts that can distract or stress you be released.

Is it true that a woman’s climax is 10 times stronger than that of a man’s?

When an orgasm has been achieved through sex, you can measure theta waves. These are also said to cause the "running high" feeling of euphoria experienced sometimes by marathon runners. If theta waves are taken as a criterion, the entire brain emits theta waves when women reach an orgasm that is close to 10 times stronger than when men climax. So, if theta waves are an indication of an orgasm's strength, then a woman’s climax is 10 times stronger

 What happens if I never get an orgasm ever?

I would not worry about it. Just from the tone of this questions it sounds like you are very concerned but believe me the more you worry the less it is likely to happen. I would experiment with masturbation and sex toys in particular vibrators that stimulate the clitoris. Give your self time a safe place and play around get into the sensation and let go. It will happen when it happens. If you have relaxed enough and have felt arousal, had increased vaginal secretion than you are probably in working order but if you do not feel arousal of any kind you might want to consult with your gynecologist.

 How many times can a girl get an orgasm in a day without it hurting?

 Infinite amount of times. It also depends on the woman. She might get a little sore depending on technique but she will not hurt herself.

What can increase the intensity of an orgasm?

Yes, the longer the time between orgasms can make an orgasm stronger also being excited and turned on about what you and your partner are doing can also make an orgasm stronger.

Why do women not always get an orgasm during sex? Why is it so hard for a woman to have orgasms?

For several reasons. One is that it is more mental for women and they are usually thinking of other things like what they look like or what is an orgasm if they had never had one before. Most women need a lot more foreplay and attention to the clitoris and their emotions than penetration.

FETISHES

Why do people like to be choked during sex?

The carotid arteries (on either side of the neck) carry oxygen-rich blood from the heart to the brain. When these are compressed, as in strangulation or hanging, the sudden loss of oxygen to the brain and the accumulation of carbon dioxide can increase feelings of giddiness, lightheadness, and pleasure, all of which will heighten masturbatory sensations. This is also called Erotic asphyxiation, asphyxiophilia, autoerotic asphyxia, hypoxyphilia, or breath control play. Colloquially, a person engaging in the activity is sometimes called a gasper. The erotic interest in asphyxiation is classified as a paraphilia in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of the American Psychiatric Association. Psychiatrist Joseph Merlino stated that it meets the criteria for a disorder "because it has the potential for lethality or serious injury."[1]

 1. Wikinews members (Friday, 5 October 2007). "Dr. Joseph Merlino on sexuality, insanity, Freud, fetishes and apathy". Wikinews. Retrieved 2010-03-02.

What is the definition of a ‘furry’?

*In the broadest definition, someone who finds the idea of anthropomorphic (humanlike) animals, in art, fiction, cartoons, costume, or other media, to be an appealing one. Furries are an extremely diverse group and no one furry may possess all, or any, of the traits typically associated with the group; furries can range from people who are fans of old Warner Bros. and Disney cartoons; people who* enjoy portraying anthropomorphic animals in art; people who enjoy imagining what a future, past or alternative world might be like if humans were replaced with or accompanied by anthropomorphic animals; and people who like wearing costume tails, ears and/or animal mascot costumes, to those who feel spiritual connections to animals or to the animal form; those who admire the beauty, power, speed or grace of of the animal form; those who believe they have empathy with or can communicate with animals, for example people who work with them; people who have a great deal of respect for animal welfare; and people who find the concept of anthropomorphic animals enjoyable in a sexual way.

* Urban dictionary

 What is a pink sock?

It is the protrusion of rectal tissue through the anus to the exterior of the body from excessive anal intercourse.

What are the health risks for golden showers?

Urine is only sterile when a person is of good health. This means that fungal, bacterial, and viral infections can all be transmitted through urine. The primary method of transmission is through an open wound, such as a burn or scrape, which means infection will occur more easily on the body than in the mouth.

The biggest health concern related to golden showers is hepatitis. Those suffering from hepatitis B can transmit the disease through their urine even if they aren’t showing any symptoms. Cytomegalovirus (CMV) is another common virus that can be easily transmitted through urine, resulting in flu-like symptoms.

You also need to be careful when it comes to genital herpes, because an infected individual does not have to show any symptoms or open sores for transmission to occur. In fact, broken skin on the back, arms, or any place on the body may start to develop cold sores if infected.

The two most common STDs, chlamydia and gonorrhea, may be transmitted to the throat if ingestion occurs. Although transmission of HIV is theoretically possible, the chance of it occurring is very small. There are no known cases of HIV transmission through urine, but those who are already infected with HIV should definitely avoid watersports. Risk of a life-threatening infection is too high, especially when it comes to fungal infections like histoplasmosis, blastomycosis, and coccidiomycosis (valley fever).

One thing to keep in mind (apart from disease) is that certain recreational drugs and medications are usually present in urine in varying amounts. So if you have a drug test coming up at work, avoid engaging in watersports with those who partake in illegal substances.

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Here the text questions I did not get to answer when I was presenting at Bryant University on February 17, 2011.

Did u have sex after you found out u had HIV?

Yes, with both positive and negative partners. The general rule for me is not to let my vaginal secretion or blood into another person’s bloodstream. That leaves a lot of possibilities.

 

After you found out that you were HIV positive what happened between you and your boyfriend?

It was a short-term relationship. Once he found out he disappeared for a long time.

 

Was the guy really the one? No

 

What's your brother's name? Steve Shull

 

Are you still with the guy you got tested with in college? No

What are your thoughts on nuva ring? It is something you need to decide with you and your physician. If you do not want to get pregnant it is important to have a reliable form of birth control but know that it will not protect you from STDs

 

What did you boyfriend say after you got tested? He was in shock. He tried to comfort me but I think he wanted to get as far away from me as possible

 

What do you think about blumpkins? It is a person preference.

 

My friend was drunk and tried to have sex with a poster. Does he have a problem? Yes

 

Are u married now?  Yes, I have been together over ten years married for over 8 years. 

 

Is it true that if you don't use it you lose it?

No, you might feel a little awkward at first the most important thing is to communicate with your partner and find out what they like and go from there.

 

How long were u a dominatrix? I was a dominatrix for about a year.

 

How come when u swallow cum you don't get pregnant because doesn't it come out of your vagina? The semen is digested in the stomach so the sperm does not make it to the uterus to fertilize a possible egg that has found its way down the fallopian tubes from the ovaries.

 

What weed did you grow on your farm? All kinds of variations of sinsemilla.

 

Have u ever gave a dirty sanches? No

 

Can u put the condom on with your mouth again?

You can see a step by step tutorial on my facebook page: http://www.facebook.com/pages/River-Huston/53449996633#!/pages/River-Huston/53449996633?sk=app_2392950137

 

How do you feel about the pull out method? It is the riskiest sort of birth control and will also not prevent transmission of STDs. There is pre-ejaculatory fluid often involved and this is enough to transmit disease as well fertilize an egg causing pregnancy.

 

Do you know of many HIV positive people that have a lot of unprotected sex? I know some couples that are both HIV positive who have unprotected sex as well as couples where one is positive and the other is negative. In those cases they have made a choice together. If a person is on HIV medication and they have no detectable virus in their blood, the thinking is there is not in thier semen or vaginal secretion as well and they cannot transmit it for more info on this go to: http://www.aidsmap.com/page/1429357/.  There are other people out there either that do not know they are positive and having sex or do know and just don’t care for a number of reasons including anger, resentment, denial and depression.

 

What's your favorite thing to do without a condom? Be intimate, present and loving in whatever activity we choose.

 

Do u use sex toys? Yes!

 

Can do it in the butt and not get aids? Having unprotected anal intercourse is the riskiest form of sex because the fragile tissues lining the rectum are vulnerable to breakage allowing semen to enter the bloodstream in this manner.

 

Do you have kids? No I have dogs and chickens

 

How do I make girls wet? Every girl is different and it is important to learn what turns on each individual person. You can do this by talking or when you are being intimate to see the physical results of your actions.

 

How do you know if a girl is really faking it or not? Sometimes it is very hard to tell but when I women climaxes there are physical signs An orgasm consist of rhythmic muscle contractions occurring in the outer third of the vagina as well as the uterus and anus. The skin flushes, areoles get darker, muscles keep contracting, and blood pressure, heart and respiratory rate  increase. The first muscle contractions are the strongest, occurring at a rate of about 1 per second. As the orgasm continues contractions become less intense, and occur at a more random rate as the orgasm draws to a close. But if a womeen chooses to fake it sometime her exertion can mimic some of these signs. 

 

How much does the black dildo cost and where can I get one? I think it was about $35 and I got it at the Pleasure Chest in NYC I am sure you can find something similar online.

 

What is your favorite position? There are many but the questions for me is who is my favorite sexual partner and that is my husband.

 

What's the best way to initiate a threesome? With lots of communication. If one person does not seem especially in to it and they are your primary partner, forget about it. It spells disaster for the relationship. If it is two women/men that you are not currently involved with, start a talk about sex and lead into it. It is important to  be sober so that there is no mixed communications going on and everyone agrees on whatever ground rules or boundaries you set.

 

Can you put the condom on the black dildo with your mouth? No

 

Have you ever been with another girl?  Yes several I feel I am bi-sexual but prefer men.

 

Is it true that when the red rivers are flowing, you take the dirt path? You can have sex when a woman is menstruating but if you prefer anal just make sure you ask they consent.

 

Is that dildo on stage a replica of Franck’s cock? I don’t know Frank but I don’t think so.

 

Thought on anal??? It is up to each individual’s personal preference most important thing is to be safe by using lots of lubricant on the out side of the condom and going slow to start.

 

Is it weird to have sex with stuffed animals? No, it is a personal preference and there are whole groups of people who enjoy this activity.

 

Whets the best way to initiate phone sex??    Any hints?? Go in the direction of asking more and more intimate questions if they seem to enjoy it then continue the conversation to whichever level feels comfortable for both parties.

 

What is your view on sex in the shower?

Sex anywhere that both people consent is fine as long as you are being safe.

 

Does anal hurt? It can especially if you have never done it before so it is important to go slow and use lots of lubricant on the outside of the condom.

 

Is it true that once you go black, you never go back? Not true.

 

Sooo like.... can i borrow that dildo some time? No, it is a demonstration dildo.

 

What does D.P. mean?  Dr Pepper? I am not really sure.

 

do you need a condom for anal? Absolutely

 

Should guys have pubic hair?  If it is their or their partner’s preference some good reason to have pubic hair- pubic hair retains pheromones, which attracts the opposite sex and keeps the genitals warm.  Neither is absolutely needed to survive so shave away if that is your preference.

 

I recently moved to a small island in the Caribbean and it has been a period of adjustment. It is amazing and beautiful and at the same time it gives you the opportunity to examine your life. (To know more about why I made this change in my life go to-http://www.thebody.com/content/art52269.html)

I became so involved in this process that I have been errant in my blogging! But I am back on it. To begin here are the text questions from my recent performances at  Providence College in Rhode Island. Bryant University, Rutger's University and University of San Diego will follow shortly.  I also want to let all of you know who sent me questions (which are many) unless it was marked urgent the answer will float into your in box soon! to stay updated of when things are posted got to my fascebook page http://www.facebook.com/pages/River-Huston/53449996633

The texts below are from a presentation on drinking responsibly and sexual assault. It was mandatory attendance for all the athletes at Providence College. While I am on stage I invite students to text me about any of the content I am presenting. These are txts I did not have a chance to answer. I left out about 20 texts, asking me to marry them, perform certain sex acts and the many requests for the vaginal secretion story.

What's your best drinking story?
I don't remember because mostly I was too drunk and in a blackout. Really none of it was that great, I just got into a lot of trouble woke up in a lot of strange places with strange people!
Is it true if you don't use it you lose it? No, you might feel a little awkward at first the most important thing is to communicate with your partner and find out what they like and go from there.
What happened to your friend that night when you got dropped off by those kids? She got a way and because we had lied about where we were and she was very drunk she did not tell anyone about what had happened. (This is reference to a sexual assault)

How do you approach an alcoholic family member? It is very hard for a family member to be approached about their drinking one of the main components to alcoholism is denial. The best thing you can do is go to Alan on. This is 12-step program for family and friends of alcoholic. They will help you better understand the disease of alcoholism and the best ways to cope.

Let's hear the vaginal secretion story! I will post a video by the end of the day.

How did your brother deal with and overcome the peer pressure of his friends and teammates? He was extraordinarily focused on his goals and became a leader on his team and with friends so they followed his lead instead of him following anyone else’s. (My brother played on The Miami Dolphins in the Eighties)

Wat size shoe do u wear?? 7

How much could you drink in your prime? Not much, I got drunk very easily!

Have you ever pong dunked during an intense game of beer pong? No

I'll pay a couple bucks to hear the vaginal story. It will be posted today free.

Wat is vaginal secretion? It is a lubricating fluid that is naturally produced in a woman's vagina.

Is river houston a band? No it is just little ole me and it is Huston.

What's the worst thing you've dealt with without resorting to drinking?

The first time I did stand-up comedy was Caroline’s Comedy club on Broadway In New York. This is not a place for amateurs especially on a Saturday night and while being taped for Comedy Central. A friend who had heard me had connections and hooked me up as the opening act. He was supposed to help me hone my material but disappeared for a number of reasons I won’t go into here. I thought this was my big break I was opening for Chris Rock, Darrell Hammond, Collin Quinn and several others that I have blocked out. This was being taped for a Lenny Bruce Memorial evening or something like that. I know the memory of Lenny Bruce was involved. I did my Famous Yeast infection bit, which I will find for you on tape and post, but after that piece things went very badly. I had earlier gone to comedy coach and he said I was too blue (for a Lenny Bruce event, really, the guy was arrested repeatedly for obscenity) But what did I know?  When I started my cleaned up material you could hear crickets and then the audience got hostile and I actually ran from the stage. Oh did I mention I invited everyone I knew? I was so bad even friends could not laugh.  I also invited, my publisher, editors all my New York people, most who did not speak to me for quite awhile after the event. Anyway I was hiding in the bathroom and I could hear Chris Rock on stage and the audience was not laughing (I did not exactly worm them up) and he told them if they did not start laughing he would bring me back on stage. I was mortified. I waited till the waitresses left before I came out of the bathroom stall. I played that agony over and over in my head till I realized no one cared and they all probably had forgotten about me and I didn’t drink. As much as I wanted to blot the memory out I just worked on my act and have not bombed since except this one time but it was okay because it was a weird corporate event and if I had done well there would be something wrong with me. This was a long answer!

I have a lot to say so I wrote an article for the The Body which you can see here. http://www.thebody.com/content/art59528.html

I thought I would post some poems about my experiences living with HIV and AIDS for the last 25 years.

Death Is For The Dead
The poem that pissed everyone off when I was named poet laureate, I still cannot figure out why!

AIDS AIDS AIDS

I'm saying it

The world looks

and sees what it wants

They have memorials written

They have you wasted and dead

skeleton in your bed

 

AIDS AIDS AIDS

Oliver Wendell Holmes

once said

"To find true happiness

get a terminal illness

and take real good care of your self"

real good care

pajama parties cookies and milk  

afternoon naps kinda care

lots of LOVE LOVE LOVE

I see angels flying

above everyone's head

I see miracles all day long

in oranges

brown fat crawly bugs

on the big time journey across the towpath

ducks in winter

Ginkgo trees raining yellow

GINKGO GINKGO GINKGO

my dog smiling and wagging its tail

to the rhythm

of three sweet altos

"knock, knock, knocking on

heaven's door"

lint and dust dances in the afternoon

toy Buddha’s on 202

talking to wild things

toothless old men

who caught wild fish in Finland

who keep youth in blood

pumping flowing free


 

Rivers are always miracles

they aren't stopped by rocks

bridges boulders beer bottles

old tires dead bodies

or even dead refrigerators

they go around over above under

embracing all they touch

they never go back

to the beginning

to get it right

changing forever

seeking accepting expanding being

 

We have

mortal worlds

filled with gods

Buddha Christ Vishnu Mohammed

and Henry

the hitchhiker's God

they walk us through

to the end

shedding our named coats

our finely pressed out laid out

figured out

fitted in life suits

no  expectations

no more mundane earthly matters

9-5 skull famine

weight loss facelifts fashion statements

free to go home

the early release program

do the mambo till dawn

safe sex erotic safe sex

free of judgment guilt and shame

Death is for the dead

and living is for every one else

AIDS AIDS AIDS

Hey I said it

don't memorialize metaphorize hypnotize categorize or sanitize me

its hard enough living with an illusion

no more definitions of my death

no more sympathetic death sentence eyes

I'm not dead dying

no siree bob

I'm living

just thought I'd let you know

 

DR 

to Donald Ray Huston

On the second day I cried

I could not hold it in any longer

I was strong, brave and courageous

on the first day

On the third day

morning is too bright

I wanted to talk to you

pick up the phone hang up

remember you’re gone

 

The fourth day I read

the Bible felt corrupt

 

On the fifth day I walked

looking for your crucifix

there were thousands of them

with men just like you

singing on the river banks

in the hills

against that peculiar shade of winter blood

 

On the sixth day

I did not want to go on

I cannot believe I’ll never see you again

 

On the seventh day

I went to a movie

It had a happy ending

I was angry

because I know the truth

Body Count
To the hundreds of friends, colleagues and family that have passed from this dreadful disease.

How many today?
The phone poll says five and falling;
catching bullets on Main Street,
downtown and out on the farm..
 
The guns have silencers on them these days,
picking them off 1-2-3...
 
She says she loves him,
you know... he'll save her
from Mother's not good enoughs,
can't trust you enoughs
why aren't you me enoughs.

In the darkness she dances,
spreading her 15-year old thighs,
remembering  something about safety
from health class.
But this is love, baby, love.
and the count goes up one.
 
In the doctor’s office
Jeannie tired all the time:
rash like pain like fever like
whispers in Jeannie's ear
some dusty "Pleased to meet you" Stone's misquote.
it all gets too real.
 
Death gnaws at Karen with tiny bites:
takes her son away, then her mother,
then her eyesight.
But you never look too bad
that's what everyone said
Nine a.m. Wednesday morning,
you slip away without comment,
having given your voice already
to those who had none.
 
John is riddled with bullets
tubing the great ravine.
Keeps dragging his sorry ass back for more
spinal tap bone marrow chemotherapy more.
"Living is living" he says,
even if it doesn't seem like much to the civilians.
“Let go,baby”'
they utter so lightly.
 
Lou wears a  scarf around his hairless skull
like warriors do
until it flies off his head on a Sunday.
Lou rips tubes from arms and nose;
floats like an angel past ceiling to (only) sky.
Wounds close. Lou rises
 
There's a devil facsimile in virus form
clicking his hooves across my ballroom,
dancing over the bones of the dead.
my friends, the dead.
 
I want innocence again.
The kind without memorial services, casket lining
funeral marching parade.
Black on black ripped sleeve
sitting shiva, burning pyre,
votive dripping wax
musky incense choking
hair and flesh.
 
Therapist asks me
"How come you don't cry?"
I reach for the door
"I am detached," I say,
turn the doorknob,
let the door shut behind me.
 
In my dreams I swim in pure bloody rage
that never penetrates.
I can never move toward safety.
There is a man on the shore with a net.
He is calling to me.
When I open my mouth to reply,
it fills with red nothing comes out.
 
Awake I'm safe
for a while
as rain whips up the dead leaves
I take the pills
that save me from a stanza
about imminent death
and other things
but not you my dearest loves
always with me
in some form or another

Here are some more of the txts I received from the University of Illinois in Springfield and students at The College of New Jersey.

The questions are about sex, love and relationships and whatever else comes up while I am presenting my show, SEXED.

Why are there times when a man can’t get hard?
There can be a number of contributing factors to this problem. The first is medical. Take a trip to the doctor to make sure all is well medically. They can prescribe drugs for erectile dysfunction. Then there is stress and performance anxiety. Try going slow to help alleviate these factors do not focus on intercourse or penetration, try erotic massage, mutual masturbation, sex toys. If he does not respond, do not focus on the problem but go onto something else, make like it is not a big deal. The more focus you put on the problem the less likely anything will happen. You can talk about it later.

is it ok to yell GUHHH!!!! when uu bust a nut?
If that is what moves you, sure but be cognizant of those around you if you are trying to be covert this might give you away.

Why do guys like pulling hair while they have sex?
Not all guys like to do this but some do so do some women. Our sexuality is informed by many things so what might be arouse one person can be a complete turn off for another. If you don't like having your hair pulled or anything else during sex be sure to let your partner know. You can say it in a nice way but be firm, this is not something you enjoy.

Do u like to be spanked? How hard?
People ask me all the time do I like to be spanked, what is my favorite position, how many orgasms can I have in a row etc. I don' t see the benefit is sharing this information because I am married and I won't be having sex with you and this is information I would share with a potential partner.

Aug 27, TCNJ

Can u still give  someone a cold sore if u dont have a break out?
Yes, with herpes simplex one and two no sore has to be present to spread the virus due to viral shedding. If you know that you have a tendency to have cold sore this needs to be discussed before having oral sex you can also look into taking valtrex  as a prophylactic.

Are girls with larger breasts more sensitive to having them played with? Can they cum faster from doing so?
Not necessarily. The size of the breast does not effect sensitivity. The are a coulee of factors that might affect sensitivity, one is the amount of nerve endings in the breast and nipple area, which can vary from person to person. Also if the breasts are natural, or have been modified in anyway can effect sensitivity if a person has had enlargement , reduction or implants sometimes they can have numbness or over sensitivity. The mental state can also effect sensitivity if a person has issues around their breasts whether it is size or assault or just another perhaps unrelated experience they might also have more or less sensitivity. With each partner if you are attuned to them and especially if you ask you will find out if breast play is something that aroused them and increases the ability to reach climax faster.

Can u provide us condoms?
No I always suggest that you buy your own condoms that way you know where they have been. Condom have the least error rate if they have been kept in a cool dry place and have not expired ( always check the expiration date which should be on each individual condom).

How can u keep a erection for a longer time?
One of the bet ways is to masturbate at least an hour before you think you might be having sex, maybe even a few times if you tend to ejaculate quickly. You can also use a condom, just one thought something using two condoms is better but the friction between both condoms can cause them to break. There are also creams you can buy that cause a numbing sensation and this will help as well.

is there sperm in pre-cum?
Yes and it is enough to transmit STDs and get a person pregnant.

i have a boner.
This is not uncommon in your men

When you said not to douche does that mean i shouldn't use something like summers eve?
No your vagina is a clean mean machine. Really the only thing you need to use is water to clean the vagina of course you can use soap but this can also cause drying and itching because most soaps are a derivative of a detergent so it is always best to either just clean hourly with water or use a gentle soap. If you douche to get clean you disturb the Ph balance of the vagina and this lowers it's ability to keep bacteria, viruses at bay often setting up an environment for yeast infections and lower the vaginas natural ability to defend your body against bacterial infections. If you feel burning, itching discharge it is bet to a gynecologist to give you an accurate diagnosis by self medicating you can often make the problem worse.

Is it cool finger my anus?
If that is something you like go for it.

Do you know the size of Harry Potters wand?
My husband thought is this was funny and of course I don' know

Can I have the vibrator?
Of course! You can there are many places you can get one at including:
www.GoodVibes.com 
http://www.edenfantasys.com/
www.AdamEve.com

Here are the first batch of sex questions with the answers from the University of Illinois, Springfield where I presented my show SEXED on August 25, 2010. These are the questions that the audience texted me during my show. I did very little editing of the txts.

Over the last 3 weeks I have gotten more than 1200 txts so there this will take some time! If you need an urgent answer please email me at river@riverhuston.com

Enjoy

Do glow in the dark nipple rings increase pleasure?

It really depends on the people involved some would really enjoy that activity and others not so much.

Why do you love your back fat and cellulite?

Because l have cellulite and back fat and life is too short to hate it. I exercise eat well and my body is what it is. In our culture these words are often said with disdain so I turned it around. I do not want to disdain or be disgusted with my body so I choose to love my back fat and cellulite. Words are powerful, the more I say positive things the better I feel!

What are the side effects of skipping the placebo pills and starting a new pack to avoid your period?

They actually market pills to do this (Lybrel, Seasonale and Seasonique) but you can do with the pill you are taking by just skipping the placebo as you mentioned. The only difference is if you are taking a monophasic pill — with the same hormone dose in the three weeks of active pills you will not have in possible breakthrough bleeding. If you're taking a triphasic pill — with a different hormone dose each week of the active pill phase — using them continuously carries a much higher rate of breakthrough bleeding. Check with doctor about what kind of pills you are on.

Best advice for two virgins having sex on their wedding night?

Try to have a good time. Don’t worry too much about performance but focus on intimacy and connection. Also know that sex improves over time once you get to know what each other enjoy. Don’t go in with great expectations but with the willingness to be a good partner, listen, learn and communicate.

How do u get comfortable wit ur body?

After millions of hours of negative input it takes time to instill positive thoughts. Do not allow yourself the luxury of falling in to the bad habits of called yourself names. Come up with something easy and just stick with it. I do not spend a lot of time in the mirror. I know if I do I will start to criticize so I admire instead of examine. I look in the mirror make sure everything is clean and on straight and say, “Your cute”, and get out of there. Short of plastic surgery not much is going to change so don’t lament it. Some days are worse than others and on those days I am especially kind and call on the part of myself that cherishes and loves me unconditionally and from there I am able to start over. I will add something about weight loss here as well since our culture is so obsessed with body shape. If you want to lose weight, eat well and exercise but focus on how good it makes you feel not weight loss. A diet mentality is the most brutal of all states of mind when it comes to loving your body.  For many of us with body issues there is no winning when it comes to diets. It is an endless cycle of diet, cheat, repent, repeat. Instead focus on hunger, when you feel hungry: eat and get in touch with when you are full and when you sense your are close to fullness; stop. There are many books out there on mindful eating including Geneen Roth, Thich Nhat Hanh and Michelle May.

I wanna know your story!

It will be available in a memoir in about 4 months keep checking my stare at ww.riverhuston.com I will make it available as an eBook as well as hard cover.

Where is the clit?

The clitoris is a bundle of nerves about the size of a pea located at the top of a woman's vulva, above the urethral opening. It is very sensitive and is responsible for feelings of sexual pleasure when stimulated.

The clitoris plays a significant role in orgasms, and can produce orgasms with and without sexual penetration.

 

For us that aren’t that experienced...can u cover...if u don’t use it do u lose it?

Sometimes you can feel a little awkward if you have never had sex or have not had much in a long time but with an open mind and communication with your partner everything will work out. You don’t really “lose” anything. It is all mental and by creating a comfortable environment to have sex by talking with your partner about possible anxieties (do this out of the bedroom not right before you are going to have sex it can be a turn off to some, for others a big turn-on so I suggest the first conversation be out of the bedroom) you can relieve the anxiety and have a much better time. 

How do u get a free dildo?

Enter a contest! I don’t know best to just buy one that way you can get one you like

What is the biggest penis you've ever seen?   

14 inches, he had a very difficult time becoming rock solid because it took so much stimulation and blood for him to be hard.

How is a threesome supposed to work?

With lots of communication and understanding between the participants. If it is with an established couple who want to experiment it is crucial that both parties are into and one is not being coerced. Actually a foursome works out better because no one is every really left in the cold. But do not take things personally if two of the threesome suddenly gets hot and heavy without you just enjoy being a voyeur for a bit and masturbate or find a way to jump in. The biggest pitfall to a threesome is miscommunication and hurt feelings and jealousy.

 

When did you first have sex?

When I was 14. It was not a good experience at all!

 

How much does it hurt for the female for vaginal.... The first time (do I need pain killers?)

I do not suggest painkillers; instead use lots of foreplay help your partner by showing how you like to be aroused. The more aroused and relaxed you are the less painful. Go slow, communicate, use lots of lubrication but most importantly relax and try to enjoy the experience.

What happens if u swallow cum?

Many people have questions about oral sex and disease transmission: Can you catch an STD from oral sex? Can get other diseases from swallowing cum? Will swallowing cum hurt you or make you sick? Is it safer to spit than to swallow? We'll attempt to demystify some of these issues.

First the Good News Cum is an all-natural bodily fluid that doesn't harbor any diseases or harmful bacteria in a healthy person. The purpose of semen is to transport sperm to the female ova, and it is a high-protein, nutrient-rich medium designed to support and sustain the spermatozoa during their relatively brief journey. The sperm themselves also present no threat in the digestive tract, and are neutralized by gastric fluids by the time they reach the stomach.

 If anything, swallowing the cum of a healthy male may in fact be good for you, since it is a highly concentrated source of protein, minerals, natural sugars, and other nutrients. Healthy seminal fluid is mostly fructose and proteins, and doesn't contain any harmful chemicals. The slightly bleachy smell of semen comes from its alkaline pH and minute traces of chlorine, but if it's mild enough for a vagina, it's not going to be any harsher on your mouth or throat.

Because the ducts and glands that produce the components of semen feed into the urethra, the same passage that carries urine out of the penis, cum may pick up some traces of urea or uric acid. However, these are harmless, as is healthy urine in general. The urinary tract of a healthy person contains only trace amounts of bacteria, and there are no substances in urine that are harmful to consume in the quantities excreted normally.

The sort of good news is that swallowing your partner's cum will not put you at any greater risk for catching an STD. The flip side is that if your partner does have an STD, by the time you've had unprotected oral sex with them, whether you swallow or not, you've been exposed to whatever they're carrying.

Having unprotected oral sex (giving a blow job without a condom) is risky. Some of the diseases that can be transmitted through oral sex if your partner is infected include herpes, genital warts, gonorrhea, chlamydia, and syphilis. The risk of HIV transmission through oral sex is still undetermined. Some experts say there is little to no risk of getting HIV through fellatio, while some say there is possible risk, especially if there are cuts or sores in the mouth of the person performing oral sex.

Because most of the STDs mentioned are transmitted through contact with sores or lesions on the genitals, or are present in the pre-ejaculate fluid (precum), a person performing unprotected oral sex on an infected partner has already been exposed even before their partner ejaculates. If your partner cums in your mouth, you may be exposed to additional quantities of STD pathogens in the semen, which can infect you through the mucous membranes in your mouth and throat or through small cuts or scrapes on the inside of the mouth.

However, if you've already gone that far, swallowing the semen isn't going to put you at much additional risk. If anything, once the cum is in your mouth, swallowing may be the quickest way to get rid of it. Once you've swallowed, your digestive enzymes and acids will probably destroy any germs in the semen, and your stomach and intestines are not vulnerable to infection by STDs.

If your partner has cum in your mouth and you are concerned about STDs, you can minimize your risk by either quickly spitting or swallowing. The point is just to get the cum out of your mouth quickly one way or another. Then whether you've spit or swallowed, gargle and rinse your mouth thoroughly with a 3% hydrogen peroxide solution (the type available in drug stores for first aid). This will kill any germs in your mouth and throat and wash them out of cuts in the mucous membranes."

 So, is it safe? Sure if your partner is disease free. If you are unsure or they don't know, then it can be risky. But most of your risk in this activity will be from STD's

Thanks to spit dont swallow website for the answer to what happens if you swallow cum? I knew the answer but they said it so much better!: http://www.dontspitswallow.com/100-blowjob-tips.shtml