It is an interesting start to the New Year. First let me say to all of you have sent in questions, I will answer them in the coming weeks. I have been distracted by an IRS audit and helping my father through open-heart surgery . I will skip the gory details on both and just say he survived, I survived, all is well and now it is time to get back to work!

In the next week I will be answering these questions:

I am about to be a teenager and people in the 8th and 9th grade are doing things and giving blowjobs. I just want to know how it feels when you first do it.

I’m dating a man who doesn't want to touch me because he's afraid he will become infected if he has cuts on his hands. I told him if the cut is healing - there is no risk but he keeps remembering what I told him - no risk on UNBROKEN skin.... have any suggestions on how to convince him that there isn’t any risk on cuts that are healing??

I'm nervous about how to go about asking my boyfriend to get tested with me. We've only had oral sex together, but he has had sex with girls before. How do I bring it up comfortably?

I have never had sex without a condom and my girlfriend is not on the pill. She wants to have sex using the withdrawal method and without a condom because she says that it shows that we trust each other and it feels better. She told me that as long as I pull out before I ejaculate then we don't have to worry about her getting pregnant. We don’t have to worry about STDs because she has been tested and she is the only girl I have ever had sex with. Can you tell me your opinion about this?

I had the most amazing childhood with a lot of love, but for some reason I always crave love, someone to care about me, and be there when I need them. I don't know why but I can make men fall in love with me, which makes me feel good, but I can never seem to love them back even if they are everything I have ever wanted. Then when we have sex, and even if I know they like me, I don't want to loose them so I will frequently offer it or comply to their wants because I know it will keep them around. This is so not me, and I feel like I have become an awful person. Is there something wrong with me?