I started my fall tour last week in St. Louis and then Detroit. Both were amazing conferences. In St Louis it was the National Family Planning Council and Detroit, A Positive Women’s Conference. I performed on my first Riverboat in St. Louis, quite exciting. I realize how much I love to do straight on out comedy without worries of being PC. It was almost hard the next day to do the closing keynote and behave but I managed to do the keynote and sort of behave.

I had two days in between the two events so I came home did the laundry, repacked, got in my car drove to the airport, parked, opened the hatch to get out my bags and wella, I had left all my luggage sitting on my deck. This was a first in 18 years of being on the road! The good side was I realized I need very little to travel. I think my bags will be a lot lighter in the coming months!
In Detroit at the Women’s Conference, I was asked to do a combination opening keynote/comedy show. Sometimes we just have to start the day with a good laugh. Actually that is how I like to start everyday!

Since I had no props (they were safely packed in my luggage sitting on my deck) I stopped by the exhibit hall to borrow some things from a safe sex table. They had the usual barrier items; dental dam, female condom ( I got the glove from the kitchen). At this table were demonstrating how to use said items, I use them to show why most people do not want to have safe sex. Barrier sex is why it is so difficult for people to have safe sex consistently. We advocate for people to have conventional sex; anal, vaginal, oral sex and then throw a latex barrier on it, yuk. No wonder it is so hard (or not) to get people to be safe.

The best safe sex comes from more organic thinking. What turns you on? And go from there. Sex is a buffet, a smorgasbord there are so many enjoyable things to do without using barriers. By shifting your thinking you can having better sex by being safe because you have to communicate with your partner and you get more creative and specific about what you like.

The most difficult part is to be brave and talk when it comes to sex. Most of us just wish our partner would figure it out. Most the time this is not going to happen. So speak up break out an outfit, a toy or the baked beans and have fun!

next trip

It is a really busy schedule this year. (http://www.riverhuston.com/calendar-/) Next blog I will talk about how that happened!