Great Sex, Safe Sex, Consensual Sex
Great Sex
The keys to reaching these goals are communication and realization. It is about and making conscience choices and taking mindful action whether it is around a night of partying or having sex. To have a great sex life you need to own your choices, and be aware that you have the power to decide what you want to do with your sex life. Safe sex is about creating healthy habits and consensual sex is about lowing your risk by incorporating, communication, healthy habits and understanding how alcohol can raise the risk of assault.
safe sex
The most important component to great sex is communication. It is important to understand your own sexual nature, desires and goals so you can communicate them through talking, showing and even texting (not sexting, just communicating clearly what you want to do in a text). Often we go with the flow, afraid to speak up and this can lead to actions that we really did not intend. Being able to clearly recognize what direction you want to go with your sex life and at the same time, if that includes another person, be able to talk about how far you want to go, the things that enjoyable to you and any issues you might have about sex. It is helpful to create an atmosphere where you can freely talk about what you like or don't like from the beginning.
Consensual sex
There is epidemic of sexual assault, date rape, and rape, what ever you want to call it, it is happening on college campuses and beyond. There are a lot of assaults where you have not control and an assault can happen no matter how many precautions you take to lower your risk. You might be the survivor of incest or stranger rape. As a survivor of sexual assault I know how devastating this can be so it is crucial to learn how to take steps to prevent rape from happening whenever it is possible.
The first realization is that on college campuses alcohol fuels this epidemic and to be aware that if you go out to party that is not the night to hook-up. You can flirt, get numbers, dance, stay in plain sight if you are going to be physical. Once you go off with someone whether you or they or both of you are intoxicated it is formula for miscommunication especially around sex. If you have sex with someone who is intoxicated it is rape even if both of you are under the influence. So first step is accepting alcohol and sex do not mix. You will make much better sexual choices sober. I believe it is better to see your partner in the light of day before having sex with them.
The first realization is that on college campuses alcohol fuels this epidemic and to be aware that if you go out to party that is not the night to hook-up. You can flirt, get numbers, dance, stay in plain sight if you are going to be physical. Once you go off with someone whether you or they or both of you are intoxicated it is formula for miscommunication especially around sex. If you have sex with someone who is intoxicated it is rape even if both of you are under the influence. So first step is accepting alcohol and sex do not mix. You will make much better sexual choices sober. I believe it is better to see your partner in the light of day before having sex with them.
text questions from the progam SEXED
- How do you become more comfortable hearing/talking about sex?
- How much sex is too much sex??
- What do you do if the condom breaks?
- Explain the g spot.
- How long does an average male last in sex?
- How do you handle performance anxiety?
- I have a really great relationship, however during sex it's impossible for him to make me orgasm, what should I do?
- Do vaginas really become loose after lots and lots and lots of sex?
- How does one get STD tested?
- What should I tell my kid sister to protect her from getting raped in the future?
- Do gay guys have better sex than straight guys?
- How to you protect yourself (std's) when using a dildo or strap on? Is a condom necessary?
- Is moaning staged and mostly acting?
- Do you recommend that I masturbate with a condom on to get used to it?
- What's the average size of a fully erect penis?
- Where can u get condoms on campus?
- When switching from oral to normal sex, do you change condoms?
- How does one with HIV or AIDS stay sexually active?
- How do you know which size to buy if you're just buying to have them?
- Is it true there is an 80% chance girls wont get pregnant?
- Does pulling out prevent pregnancy?
- Is it dangerous to take the morning after pill while on birth control?
- How do you get past rape? It's been 9 years and I'm still in a bad place.
- What happened to the men who raped you?
- How do u deal with someone in a relationship if they were sexually assaulted and raped?
- If a man gets drunk and has sex with a sober woman, could he file sexual assault charges?
- How do you get rid of "morning regret" because you like the person, but they just wanted a good time?
- I'm a female and my best friend is a guy. I've told him my feelings about him but and he doesn't feel the same way. I've ended or friendship was that a good idea?
- What if your partner is using a dildo and you get jealous that you can't compare?
- How do I confront my mom about her alcoholism? She put her friend on the show Intervention but won't accept her own problems.
- Did you stop drinking on your own or did you have an intervention?
- Is okay to be a virgin after my junior year?
- I tried to quit drinking for good. And only lasted 10 days. Am I an alcoholic? And what should my next step be?
- Any recommendations on avoiding awkward situations with drugs and alcohol?
- What are the symptoms of HIV?
- What can you do to feel more comfortable in your body during sex?
- Should good sex hurt after you pee?
- Is it okay to cry after sex?
- I don't have any interest in sex is this normal?
- I want to tell my mother about being raped by a family member but I don't think she will believe me what should I do?